Thursday, February 11, 2010
On Valentine's Day....
Hooray, it's (almost) Friday, and time for another of my posts inspired by Kelly's 'show us your life' series. Kelly asked mainly for our favourite gift and date, but as I'm quite new to this Valentine's-day-in-a-couple gig (woo! Number 2!), I thought I'd look at the whole darn thing.
I have had so many different Valentine's Days as a single girl (about a dozen from when I was dating age onwards). I used to often travel around this time of year, so my memories aren't so much of not getting cards and flowers, but more about eating tapas and drinking Sangria in Madrid with Hannah, one of my best girls....
...or packing up to head to Paris to see Naomi (another of my best girls) the day after Valentine's day another year.
It's going for a day of shopping and lunch and watching Titanic with girlfriends from school, relaxing and having far too good a time to get hung up about the holiday.
I've worked straight through the day some years. Just got my work on and barely noticed the day (except for that little twinge you get when you arrive back in the door and there's not a single card on the mat). I've also had that strange year when a handful of cards arrive and you're flattered and inquisitive, but mainly just quite confused.
I remember one thoroughly sad and upsetting year when I made myself a beautiful dinner with a lovely wine, and sat eating it, crying, knowing the boy I really wanted to share it with was a couple of miles away physically, but woefully out of my reach in reality. I literally felt like my heart was going to break.
And I've spent a fair few Valentine's Days on dancefloors or stages, giving up the idea of romance for a greater loves of mine....music, dancing, friends. :-)
Now, however, I'm lucky enough to have a boy worth celebrating Valentine's with, and I seem to be making it a tradition to take him away each year. It's the perfect time....close enough to Christmas that I can make a gift of it....past the end of the bleak month of January....usually after six manic workweeks for both of us, when some quality time is needed. Last year Matthew and I went to Brighton. This year, Dublin.
I think I shocked Matthew by saying I don't want to do gifts this year (cards, however, yes. I *heart* cards). Seriously, I am a girl who loves presents - especially buying them for other people. But I just think Valentine's is a step too far for me financially (romantic? No. True? No doubt!).
I buy Matthew big presents for the big three (birthday, Christmas, anniversary) and little gifts all the time (is there anything more fun than hiding chocolates in someone's sock drawer? Or giving a little gift for no other reason than it's Thursday and you love them?). And Matthew is always considerate and loving to me, even when I have bedhead, or I'm stressed, or I forget stuff. That means more to me than any necklace could (although Matthew knows me pretty well and would choose a beautiful one!).
So for me, the best date is quality time with my honey. And the best gift is....quality time with my honey. I think Valentine's can be great fun, but I hope that I let Matthew know that I love him far more frequently than once a year at a card company's behest. I can appreciate the romance and the fun of the day though, so wherever you are for Valentine's, and whatever you do, I hope you have a wonderful time.
And Matthew honey, I love you. Valentine's Day, today, yesterday and tomorrow. I am very very lucky to have you.
Happy V day, everybody!