Deep thoughts….(with a little cheesey quiz at the end)

I’ve been having lots of conversations lately. I’ve been in some strange situations lately. And now I’ve had a weekend alone in which to think about it all. Which is always useful!

Over the last fortnight or so I feel a little bit like my life has been turned upside down, in a variety of ways. I’ve learned some really nice, flattering, interesting things about myself and the people around me. I’ve also learned some not so nice, less than flattering, and at times hurtful things about myself and the people around me too…

So a weekend to clarify has been just what I needed. And now I know what I want to happen in the three main situations I’m involved in….in one I’m hoping for the best. In one I’m cutting my losses. And in the other I’m totally open to whatever transpires. I would write more here, but until other people have shown their hands, I can’t.

But I’ve learned some things, and that is always the main thing. I’ve learned that while it’s OK to be strong and self-reliant, sometimes you need to be able to step back and admit you need something. Admit you need someone, maybe. And I think (think being the operative. Trust me) that I’m ready to do that. I’ve learned that I am a loyal friend, and I intend to stay that way. I’ve learned that sometimes fear makes people do things you wish they wouldn’t, but you have to let them do what they have to do. I’ve learned that you have to appreciate the even keel when you have it, because you never know when a wave is going to hit. Or in this case, three in a row….one good, one notsogood, and one hmmmmmm, intruiging.

Hahahahahahaha, are you still with me?

Apart from that is has been a lovely chilled weekend here – lots of reading (am halfway through ‘Lolita’) and I watched 3 films in a 12 hour window (haven’t done that since uni!) – Music and Lyrics (such a cheesefest!), Shortbus (controversial doesn’t even begin to touch on this….) and the newer Pride and Prejudice (I love the girl who plays Caroline Bingley in this version. She gives *such* good bitchface).

Which gives me a question for the end (please post your guesses in the comments)! While I was in Madrid I borrowed a book from my friend Hannah with a highbrow title along the lines of “The Jane Austen Guide To Dating” (what can I say? It was a holiday read!). Anyways, at the end of the book was a quiz to work out which Austen heroine you were most like. So, dearest readers, which one was I (for the non-Austenites, I’ve done a brief characterisation for each as well!)?

a) Elizabeth Bennett – independent, witty, bright and strongwilled.
b) Marianne Dashwood – flighty, impetuous, lively and fragile.
c) Elinor Dashwood – loyal, sensible, polite and bright.
d) Jane Bennett – sweet, kind, loving and giving.
e) Lydia Bennett – naughty, high-spirited, a little dim and undecorous.

Answer to be revealed soon! Bear in mind, all the questions were to do with dating / flirting / love, so it’s just my persona for that. Apparently.

Heh, what a post. You see what happens when I have time to think?



  1. rory
    4th May 2008 / 5:38 pm

    No Emma Woodhouse option? For shame! Then my second choice would be Elizabeth Bennet, with the caveat that of those options I only know the Bennet sisters.

  2. Anonymous
    4th May 2008 / 6:32 pm

    You are such a Jane Bennett girl, I know you 😉 Mlle Wilson x

  3. Jillian
    4th May 2008 / 6:33 pm

    Ahh, it’s hard to ask for help. I (and don’t ask why) have always seen it as a sign of weakness or that I’ve done something to put myself in a position to NEED it. But hell, I’m STILL learning and growing and getting better at it.This is all weird because when someone needs my help I don’t think any of those things. It’s just me helping someone out. What a nice double standard! And not even a favorable one.Anyways…Where is the character representing “awkward”, “clueless” and “tactless”??? Cuz I’m all over that.:-D

  4. Sheli
    4th May 2008 / 6:45 pm

    I would say Elisabeth or Elinor.. tho I could see you on occasion being Marrianne.hahaha that is soooo not an answer.mmmm Austen…

  5. 2 Dollar Productions
    4th May 2008 / 10:29 pm

    I think Sundays are fine days to reflect on various things. And I’m all for self-reliance as a general rule, however, everyone needs things on occasion, which I think is fairly nice when you think about it. Finally, I’m guessing Elinor Dashwood – mostly because you seem sensible enough to think through issues.

  6. Cheryl
    4th May 2008 / 11:39 pm

    having never flirted with or dated you or seen you in action…I have no idea. But I don’t think you’re a Lydia. I will say that.

  7. Diane Mandy
    5th May 2008 / 10:29 am

    I’m going to have to go with Elizabeth B. Do tell!

  8. Diane Mandy
    5th May 2008 / 10:30 am

    I think my comment might have been lost.I vote for Elizabeth B!

  9. Siobhan
    5th May 2008 / 11:06 am

    Jane Bennet? I think that was who i got in the same quiz. Jo has that book. And I’m glad your weekend was suitably chilled and that I got to be part of the chilled.

  10. Scarlet
    5th May 2008 / 12:11 pm

    Wow, I need a weekend like yours!I read “Lolita” last year and I remember finding the first half of the book interesting; the second half a snoozer. Tell me what you think of it. You can e-mail me if you don’t want to get into it here.As for the quiz, haha, I haven’t read ANY of Jane Austen’s books. We need to start a book club online or something. Seriously. From what you’ve described of each character and from what little I know about you…I’d say you were a cross between a) and b). I see you as independent and bright, but also lively and fragile. You can be naughty, too, so I’m not ruling e) out altogether. 🙂 Oh, just tell us already! 🙂

  11. Suzie
    5th May 2008 / 2:03 pm

    Elizabeth for sure…..Thanks for stopping by my blog. Hope you weekend alone gave you some clarity.

  12. Wiwille
    5th May 2008 / 2:26 pm

    Wow I don’t even know where to begin. I guess I need to read more Jane Austen.

  13. Mattbear
    5th May 2008 / 4:57 pm

    This is just a stab in the dark guess, but I’m going with B) Marianne.

  14. Sparkling Red
    5th May 2008 / 8:41 pm

    C) perhaps? I don’t know you very well yet.I hear you on the matter of people doing things out of fear that reflect less than their full potential. That’s always disappointing, but it can be surmounted, given time.

  15. Miss Ash
    6th May 2008 / 4:47 am

    Open to whatever transpires….hmmmmmm whatever does that mean :)As for the quiz, I’m with Scarlet, a mix between a) and b)

  16. Riot Kitty
    6th May 2008 / 5:06 pm

    So send us the quiz!

  17. vivavavoom
    8th May 2008 / 3:13 am

    okay, I’ll be the odd one and say Marianne Dashwood. I do not read much Jane Austen and only know you through the blog, so I am sure this is the worst guess.

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