Linking up with the lovely Lisa-Jo, for five minutes of writing….just writing. No editing, no worrying, just five whole minutes of words on a page. Writing this in our little apartment in Gran Canaria as the sun starts to warm up the valley, before we head down to the marina for market browsing and lunch. Bueno!
Today’s prompt: is Goodbye.
All my life, the goodbye has felt like it’s always lurking in the background.
The years of moving round, of boarding school, of being the new girl, made me adept at the hello, but also at the goodbye. The letting go, the leaving.
But somewhere along the line, I realised that there were two things in play – the goodbye (final, absolute, firm), and the other goodbye (farewell for now, I’ll be thinking of you, I hope I’ll see you soon).
There’s a time for the former – at the end of a love affair or crush that ended badly or hurt you, leaving a flat behind when you move house, changing habits or ways of life. For example, I am currently in the midst of say a firm-but-fond goodbye to myriad little habits that are making and keeping me fat (snacking in front of the TV, too much wine, comfort eating, skipping workouts). I’m also preparing to move from our lovely little flat to our first real, proper, oh-my-goodness-we-(well-we-and-the-bank)-own-this home. These goodbyes are final. There’s no real going back. Real goodbyes force permanent change.
When it comes to relationships and friendships, the other goodbye is my favourite though – the one I’ve learnt. It’s the goodbye I say when I hug my parents and I know I won’t see them for months and months. It’s the goodbye I sign off Skype talks with Christy and Amber with – a fond goodbye, but one that’s temporary, transient, full of good wishes. The goodbye I say to my class at the start of a break: part goodbye, part see you soon. I like this farewell, this see-you-later, this ‘to be continued’ goodbye.
Goodbyes are powerful, wonderful, and there are a proably a thousand kinds in addition to the two I’ve mentioned. But now my time is up, so I must bid you goodbye (of the second kind!).
Have a lovely Friday, all!