“Bloom where you are planted.”
I’ve always loved that phrase. I can’t recall where I first heard it, but it’s one of those lovely quotes I’m so fond of collecting. I collect words of wisdom as others collect badges or coins or pebbles. I like to keep them in my pocket to pull out and look at when the mood takes me.
It’s a good quote.
Next month, M and I will be starting our marriage. Planting a seed that I, and he, and we, hope will grow into something strong and good and hearty. It’s something that we want to nourish and enjoy, to watch flourish and bloom. This season of being engaged has been fun, but I’m so ready for the big day. And the bigger life.
I’ve been thinking about growth, about blooming, in the recent past. I’m unbelievably lucky, but a few things had been niggling. I have long been a people-pleaser, and recently I’ve been working on this. Because while I want to be a great partner, friend, teacher…I’ve realised that another quote is true. “You can please all of the people some of the time. And some of the people all of the time. But you can’t please all of the people, all of the time!” And some people just aren’t going to be pleased.
Yep, at the age of 33, I’m finally making peace with the fact that not everyone is going to like me. And that’s okay. Now, please don’t get me wrong, I’m hoping that not too many people actively dislike or hate me, but I’m sure there’s a healthy whack of people for whom I’m just not their cup of tea. Maybe they don’t get my sense of humour. Maybe they are annoyed by me. Maybe we used to get on, but have both grown up and apart.
Who knows? Who cares.
There’s a cast of lovelies who I adore, and to quote Frank Turner, “I’m happy and I’m settled in the person I’ve become.” My friends are quite well able to tell me when I’m being a muppet (hint: frequently). As for everyone else; good luck to them. I’ll carry on walking my little path, and enjoying the company on the way.
As I grow and bloom.